I read a post today, sent to me by Elyse of Gringa BJJ, on the MMA in DC blog about some ethical guidelines for men rolling with women in BJJ.. it prompted some thoughts. Only now the post is down (I was trying this link) so instead of editing, I'll try to come up with my own.
1. Don't handle us with kid gloves like we'll break. We're a tough bunch. But please DO take into consideration the weight/size disparity. Knee on belly is fine, but be controlled and aware of your weight placement, and remember you can break ribs with your knees.
2. Don't mix business with pleasure. By this I mean what I think is pretty obvious-- we ladies are in the class to learn BJJ, not find a date. If you think we're awesome, by all means, develop a friendship or even cultivate something beyond that, but do it off the mats and outside of class. And really think it through- what will that relationship do to the harmony of your academy (whether you live happily forever after, or break up in a month) and your respective relationships with jiu jitsu? And please be gentlemen, meaning keep your mouth shut about your personal life and hers.
3. Be a little more gentle with the newest girls. I think this is obvious to 99.999% of people. For example-- some survivors of sexual assault or domestic violence take up jits for the self defense and empowerment angle. You probably don't think of mount as a particularly terrifying position (beyond the strategic disadvantage of course) but it might bring back bad memories for her. So be sensitive to the possible needs of the newer ladies.
Drop me a comment-- what do you think should be added?
Last: unrelated music fun. Morgan Page remix. Video a little silly, but it's a good tune.
Another Morgan Page remix.